Borderline Personality Disorder

When You Feel Too Much: Finding Steadiness in the Storm of

Borderline Personality Disorder

“I will be your God through all your lifetime—yes, even when your hair is white with age. I made you, and I will care for you. I will carry you along and save you.” — Isaiah 46:4 (TLB)

Some days you feel everything all at once—love, fear, joy, shame, panic, and longing. Other days, you feel nothing at all—just a hollow ache you can’t quite explain.

You want closeness, but fear being too much. You crave connection, but fear being left. You try to hold on, but your emotions come like tidal waves—pulling you into patterns that leave you exhausted, ashamed, and wondering if something’s deeply wrong with you.

This is the unseen heartbreak of borderline personality disorder (BPD)—a painful mental health condition that affects the way you view yourself, relate to others, and move through the world.

But dear one, hear this truth rising above the storm: God sees you. He understands you. And you are not beyond His help or His healing.

What Is Borderline Personality Disorder?

BPD is a complex mental health disorder that deeply impacts how you think, feel, and relate. It’s marked by:

Fear of abandonment, both real and imagined
Unstable relationships, often swinging between idealization and rejection
Intense, shifting emotions, that can overwhelm you
A fragile or confused sense of self, unsure of who you are or where you belong
Impulsive behaviors—from binge eating to reckless spending, drug use, or quitting things suddenly
Self-harm or suicidal thoughts, often triggered by fear of being left
A deep sense of emptiness
Explosive anger, shame, or bitterness
Moments of paranoia or detachment from reality during stress

It’s not just moodiness. It’s a storm inside your soul. But even here, God remains steady.

Psalm 94:18-19 says, “I cried out, ‘I am slipping!’ but your unfailing love, O Lord, supported me. When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer.”

The Longing Beneath the Hurt

At the core of BPD is a longing—for love that stays, for peace that steadies, for a self that feels whole.

But when emotions swing so fast and so deeply, it’s easy to feel like you’re too much for others... and maybe even for God.

But friend, let’s correct that lie: You are not too much for Jesus. He isn’t overwhelmed by your tears or repelled by your pain. He doesn’t flinch when you fall apart. He moves toward you, not away.

Why Relationships Feel So Hard

BPD can make relationships feel like roller coasters. You might:

Cling tightly for fear of being left
Push others away when you feel misunderstood or disappointed
Swing between loving someone intensely and then feeling betrayed by them
Struggle to trust anyone fully—including yourself

But here’s the good news: healing is possible. You can learn new ways to relate, new ways to speak to yourself, and new ways to let God’s love root you when emotions try to uproot you.

Philippians 1:6 assures us, “God, who began the good work within you, will continue His work until it is finally finished…”
Even when the process feels slow or messy, He’s still working in you.

You Are Not Broken Beyond Repair

Maybe you’ve sabotaged things that were good. Maybe your past includes cutting, threats, or outbursts you regret. Maybe your sense of self changes by the hour.

Still, God’s love remains. His mercy reaches every corner of your pain.

You are not defective. You are not a burden. You are not unworthy of connection.

You are beloved, even when your mind tells you otherwise.

Hope for the Journey

Many people with BPD find hope and healing through:

Therapy, especially Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
Spiritual support, grounding their identity in God’s truth
Medication, when needed, to help regulate mood and reduce impulsivity
Safe relationships, that model grace and consistency

Healing isn’t a straight path. You’ll have setbacks. You’ll have victories. And through it all, Jesus is your anchor.

A Gentle Invitation to Begin

At Still Waters Counseling, we understand that what you feel is real—but it’s not the full story. We’re here to help you steady the emotional waves, rebuild your sense of self, and grow into the person God created you to be.

“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” — Exodus 14:14 (NIV)

And maybe here, in this quiet place, you’ll begin to believe that healing is not only possible—but promised.

Let’s walk this journey together.